We live in times of great emotional stress and a collective culture of mental instability…….Read the Daily News. As all of the nonsense and collective daily noise seems to continuing to gather impact and speed …I often wondering what is the impact of all this on people’s perception.
The impact on the individual that is not cognitively vigilant is an inner voice telling you disempowering things, like “I don’t think I can make it,” “What if I fail?”, “I’m not that smart,” ”I’ll never have that,” “This is too hard,” “This is too big for me,” “It’s impossible,” or “It’s too good to be true” ?
If this rings a bell for you, know that this was the voice of your Inner Critic.
It is that voice in your mind that often speaks to you when you want to take risks and step outside of your comfort zone. It is a voice of fear. Its purpose is to keep you in the safe zone and protect you from any possible emotional injuries like judgment, rejection, blame or shame. It is an internal resistance to change and the unknown, and the main reason for you playing small and not daring to go for your dreams.
Your inner critic does an excellent job at keeping you safe; however, it might have an adverse impact on your life by possibly making you:
Doubt yourself and your abilities even though you know you are capable of achieving great things in life.
Admire others for their achievements without being able to acknowledge your own. You might take your own accomplishments for granted, thinking that “Anyone could have done it,” or attributing them to luck or other people who gave you chances to succeed.
Procrastinate… You might put important things on hold instead of just doing them.
Feel stressed and anxious when trying to achieve something important to you.
Worry excessively about what other people think of you. You might fear they will think less of you if you fail.
Take things personally or let others put you down.
Stay in an unhealthy relationship with someone, or stop you from starting a new relationship because of the risk of getting hurt.
Stay stuck in a job you don’t like or even hate, afraid that changing it might not bring enough money or success.
How Should You Respond.
• Hearing this voice doesn’t mean you are broken and need to be fixed. We all have it in our heads; it is part of our shadow and what makes us human.
• The goal is not to kill it (since it’s your safety check), but to learn how to differentiate the Inner Critic’s realistic concern from the false panic.
Confront the Negative Voices in Your Head- Be Brave-Bright-Bold
• We can only change the things we are aware of. Be mindful of your thoughts. Monitor your negative thinking. Each time you find yourself hearing these sabotaging voices in your mind, stop for a moment and ask yourself this question: What am I thinking right now? How does this thought serve me?
Learn What’s Real and What’s Not— Then Confront It!
• In life, there are situations when you don’t have what it takes to get where you want. I would have loved to become a ballerina, but my body didn’t allow me. Sometimes, the reality is that you need to acquire new skills and experience.
• When you build an action plan by setting new goals and working on your development, it shows you are being realistic. But if you start telling yourself that it’s going to be hard or even impossible before you’ve even tried, please know that’s not your true self talking. That is your Inner Critic.
Build self-confidence- You Control the Thought Process
Challenge your negative thinking. Put things into perspective. Looking back at your past achievements, what do you know to be true about yourself? What are the things you are most proud of?
Practice positive affirmations– Never Miss an Opportunity to Say YES!
Affirmations are credible, present-tense statements that are the opposite of your self-sabotaging, negative thoughts.
Engage Your Creativity- Be a Solutions Builder
Your inner critic won’t offer you any solutions to your problems—that’s your job! Read some good books to help you boost your confidence and your self-esteem. Work with a coach to help you connect to your inner power and inner wisdom. Your mind is often trying to play with you. Your authentic self (call it your Inner Leader) knows the truth and is already available for you, ready and eager to support you. Always.
Silencing your inner critic can be an ongoing practice, but once you’ve recognized that inner voice holding you back from what could be your biggest potential in life, it loses its power to control you. Mastering the skill of dealing with self-criticism is one of the first steps on the path to success and contentment.